Thursday, August 11, 2011

I need honest answers. Did you cheat on your significant other while you were away with the military?

My husband is joining the army and will be gone for 6 months. I want to know if you cheated while you were away. You are lonely and your SO would never find out. I know that you are all going to say that there has to be trust, but I do not trust his willpower even if he does not necessarily want to cheat. Also, I am really pissed off that after 7 years together that it is coming to this. He will go on the adventure of his life while I am left here to care for the children. I have waited patiently for him to grow up and maybe now he is, but I fear that the past is not going to let me move forward with him any longer. He has never validated me emotionally and a part of me hates him. I sat in this house with no car, a toddler and pregnant while he went to school. He never took one job utilizing his degree. I am effing mad. Now, once again I have to sit around while he gets to try new things, and hope for the best when I do not truly believe our marriage is repairable. It hurts me to say that and I feel like a failure, but it is the truth and I can't make myself stop feeling this way because I have tried. Everything about him rubs me the wrong way. We are nothing alike. He insults my intelligence and personality, he is abrasive, and I truly feel that he has set all this up to put me in a position where I will have to make all the hard decisions and look like the bad guy. He told me he would never divorce me..he would rather "live in limbo". I need some advice.

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